Wednesday, March 28, 2007

Bondage.

If you are given the chance of engaging in safe BDSM, would you consider it?

Yes
 
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No
 
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Maybe
 
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Maybe I am a latent Masochist. The prospect seems appealing to me. Being handcuffed, gagged, bound, blindfolded, tied down. I feel that it is some sort of a release of my very strong personality that I want someone to dominate me. So I am doing some readings about BDSM and I found it interesting. Here's from Wiki:


Why bondage?




Man in leather cuffs and chains during street fair

Man in leather cuffs and chains during street fair

People who find it erotic to be tied up find it so for a variety of reasons:



  • The most frequently cited reason is a mental freedom from inhibitions and responsibility since they have, in a way, given up control of the sexual situation to follow. This is sometimes referred to as a "power exchange."
  • Some like the tactile feeling of restraint, that is, the feeling of pressure or pulling.
  • Some enjoy the feeling of helplessness for its own sake. Some like to struggle aggressively against their bonds, particularly when being sexually or otherwise stimulated. There are some in this category who play bondage games that do not include a significant sexual component.
  • To intensify the experience of orgasm control or of orgasm denial.
  • Some derive pleasure from symbolic degradation (less common). People who enjoy role playing prison or mental hospital situations probably fit best in this category.
  • Fetishistic interest in the mechanics of bondage, with particular interest in the equipment and restraints used. Some of these people are interested in the look, feel, and aroma of leather and rubber restraints. Others are fascinated by the relationship between the geometry of the tie, the degrees of freedom remaining and the feelings elicited.
  • As an adjunct to other BDSM activities
  • Like hang gliding or mountaineering, some feel that bondage allows them to do something potentially dangerous in a safe way.
  • Extreme forms of bondage such as mummification some people enjoy because it is like being placed in a sensory deprivation tank and may allow the person being placed in extreme bondage to experience an Out-of-body experience.
  • In the wide range of human sexual experience, there are probably a few other reasons.

People who enjoy tying other people up are motivated by a variety of reasons, including:



  • Taking pleasure in the erotic submission of their partner
  • The feeling of trust which comes from another person placing their physical freedom in their hands
  • Wishing to please their partner, and the stimulation engendered by their partner's pleasure in it
  • Fetishistic interest in the elegance of bondage, with particular interest in the geometric patterns and symmetry (or artistic asymmetry) of the restraint
  • Using bondage as an adjunct to other BDSM activities
  • Enjoyment of the power and control one has over a restrained partner; people for whom this is a principal motivation may have trouble making it much fun for the other person.

What do you think?


In the context of BDSM, bondage involves people being tied up or otherwise restrained for pleasure. Bondage is usually, but not always, a sexual practice. The paraphilia of being sexually aroused by bondage is sometimes known as vincilagnia.


Studies in the U.S. have shown that about three quarters of all men find the idea of bondage to be erotic; many women do as well. As with any study of sexual thoughts and behavior, the available studies are not well controlled and the best studies are now out of date.


Bondage philosophy


Perhaps the most interesting and ardent "bondage philosopher" was Michel Foucault. While it is believed Foucault had only a limited personal involvement in the practice of bondage, he wrote a number of intellectual explorations of BDSM culture. He was particularly interested in the power relations that bondage brought to the surface, and how these relations reflected upon a larger societal discourse. Of further interest was the notion of a "Limit Experience", wherein the participant attempted to navigate the line between the most intense pleasure and nearly unbearable pain. While some have derided "Limit Experience" as a perverse manifestation of the Freudian "death instinct", Focault believed bondage could provide a safe and telling environment for studying this concept.



65 comments:

  1. hmmmm hot topic...hehehe i guess we all have this wild side that we want to let go sometimes. like we live in a very conservative environment or we have this very typical lifestyle that we just want to get lost in a very strange world or just want to have that kind of secret that is unique and fun hehehe and even a taboo for most. but hey not to the point of totally hurting myself like extreme bondage. just the restrained ones hahaha

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  2. I think the primary reason for me that I would want to try this out is that perhaps I am getting too jaded in that department and I want to explore something new..and perhaps it is also an issue of power for me as well.. Like I said I come on too strong to many people that sometimes I want to be "restrained" to submission myself. I heard this is a special S&M nook in Hong Kong were top execs go into and be flogged to submission. These are usually decisionmakers who wants to reverse the roles themselves albeit temporarily..

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  3. hmm i never thought of it that way but its starting to make me realize additional reasons for me to do so hahaha. like most would say that i have this very strong personality and that even just my presence is so commanding it makes other people shut up maybe it that reason that i want to submit myself to be restrained (physically i mean) because even my parents would say that i should control my personality at times. and i guess i can't so literally i have to be restrained! hahaha

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  4. True, true... I dont want to do bondage just for kinks. I think I could liken it to at one performance poetry..It's ironic actually, by being bounded you are being released.. I dunno how Filipinos would take it to consideration but there are some specialty sex stores where BDSM materials are being sold- cat-o-nine tails, handcuffs, and the whole shebang.

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  5. hahaha and you even know the stores' names eh? hehehe
    well i do believe that some people are doing bondage just so they can have this kind of "group" where they belong to. hehehe i think in amsterdam you can find very good stores with lots of options! hehehe the only kinky store that i know in manila is in greenhills and it only sells dildo and other toys with a few edible undies but thats just it.

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  6. I know a store in Makati and one in Metrowalk though... There are more stuff that is sold in Metrowalk- Pleasure Palace. The one in Makati is in Pasay Road - but it is basically a lingerie store with some sex stuff innit. I wish they have more stuff here. I have a friend who's willing to lend me his pair of handcuffs. ;)

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  7. ooohhh hahaha naughty naughty riain... and who are you going to cuff eh?
    oh wait, theres one CSI episode where theres this model whos into being restrained and died. the male model died while in his climax while being choked to death by a pantyhose that is tied to the bed lamps...

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  8. Funny you said that, CSI has a recurring dominatrix character- Lady Heather played by Melinda Clarke. Her character runs a house of domination in Vegas. :)

    As for who will cuff me? Hmm... Hehehe... That's when the word secret comes in. ;)

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  9. ;)

    We are thinking of bondage night, then a military night.. hehehe...Dont worry Ill take photos of my cuff marks on my wrists. hehehehe

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  10. hahaha just the marks? tsk tsk... i like role play too! hahaha

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  11. hehehe.. sige, maybe ill take a picture of me bounded, with duct tape and blindfolded. Ill ask them. hehe. naks! THEM!

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  12. he he he he... yeah. it's a menage dear. :P woooooooooooot!! We love to play.. :P

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  13. hmmmm any chance its an open party? hahaha

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  14. Hehehe.. Sabi nila maximum na ang 3 eh. ;P There is just as much holes u can plug. hehehe..

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  15. hahaha ok... have to work muna...

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  16. ryan!! i knw the inside supplier for those toys! *wink*

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  17. really???? i need a lot of stuff!

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  18. Interesting. I've heard this being told to me before. Hmm... so that's why? :D

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  19. what season are you refering to? the latest from US? or latest AXN? hehehe

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  20. CSI- It is recurring eh.. I think it started in the House of Slaves ep where one of Lady Heather's girls died performing S&M.

    Doc - Precisement. :)

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  21. oh... let me watch all again hehehe if i have time...

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  22. sorry for the late post.. i got the cuffs na, but nd natuloy ang bondage day... sayang.. hayy oh well... im crossing my fingers for next week.

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  23. pano gustong i-tied up, nagawa ko na toh all by myself. i'm tying up myself while wearing a jeans, tapos hog tied pa. sana magawa mo rin ung naka-jeans ka....

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  24. handcuffed, blindfolded, gagged and tied in the foot. :) but how u going to to do all this things by yourself mmm... mejo skillful yun ah.

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  25. i want someone to order me around hehehehe... i also got the duct tape na!

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  26. woohoo!!! damn you must really trust that person to tie you up... not scared that they might do something that you wont do when you are not tied up? like take photos of you and post is sa net or humiliate you or something?

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  27. haha. ;) believe me.. i know naman the people i mess around with. hey check out the new song i posted..

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  28. hehehe good for you! ayt i will!

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  29. oo nagagawa ko siya ng sarili ko lang, una muna ung paa, tapos kamay. meron pa ngang time na pinicturan ko pa nga ung sarili ko while tied up. may timer ung camera and then naka tied up post na ako. pero pag tini-tied up ko ung sarili ko, gusto ko lang talaga nakasuot ng jeans na black or blue!! may excitement kasi kapag un ang suot ko.

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  30. that's hot... i think i would like to be tied just wearing boxers. ;) so what rope do you use? where do u think I can get it?

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  31. sorry kung now lang....matagal na ung mga rope sa bahay namin. saka kaya ko na master an pagti-tied up sa sarili ko eh nagsimula ako at the age of 12, eh ngayong 19 na ako di na ganung mahirap sa akin...kung gusto mo ,after 3 years...

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  32. at 12?!? wow! who were you playing around with?

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  33. whoa.. dude.. that's hot. ;) i did some autoasphyxiation around that time siguro.. mga 15-16 siguro.. hehehehe ;)

    tagal ko di reply, i had a "nice" Easter vacation.. hehehe with someone.. we had the city on our own!

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  34. whoa! and how was it? hmmm hahaha talagang kelangan sabihin na with someone tapos hindi naman mag kwento! hehehe

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  35. Jayjay- Let's say I nailed someone. for 4-5 Days. ;)

    Btw, the numbers on our poll is rising inch by inch. ;)

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  36. whoohooo!!! 4-5 days eh? damn! it must be sore by now! hahaha

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  37. Hehehe.. I can go on for weeks. ;)

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  38. hahahaha, i won't really go with the cuffs, im more of a whip person. hahaha and i'd rather be the one who dominates than be dominated. anyone want their hands cuffed by me? hahahahahaha

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  39. i have leather cuffs here. but im not a fan of whips. only restraints. :)

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  40. wow, leather, and i am wondering if you use that often. haha.

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  41. sorry kung now lang uli, nagstart ako nung 12 pa ako. Sabi ko nga dun sa past na posts ko dito, ginagawa ko lang siya all by myself. Pero tanung ko lang, immoral or sin ba ang bdsm?

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  42. moses-

    actually not.. i havent used it pa. i choose a partner na comfortable ako. i borrowed it from a German friend who also practices BDSM.

    growling-

    sin? that's quite a question., Then let's outlaw state-sanctioned torture then.. hmm... IMO, I really dont see it as such, not at all. It is just part of a play.

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  43. i don't think it's a sin in the sense that it a natural yet uncommon fantasy of a person. and if you're already getting it down (you know what i mean. haha) might as well take it to the next level, cause sex itself can be boring after a while. haha

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  44. I dont think anyone here is into scat, right?

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  45. nope. not my type. tho i saw one film by Pier Paolo Pasolini, Salo which tackled scat.. Gross..

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  46. me either. i saw this video thing in a friend's fone. and it was some fetish. still can't remove the image from my friend. and it has been years.

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  47. why did people even developed the fetish? eek.

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  48. well, different strokes for different folks.. probably some unresolved issues during their formative years.

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  49. Is it to be tied up or give away the control that does apeal to people ???? Just asking....

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  50. more like the giving away the control part I guess. issue of power and trust. :D

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  51. glad you do Cristina - :) Like my multiply site - it shows different sides to my person. :) Feel free to check out my other less controversial entries. :)

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  52. Wow! A thread after my own heart. Can I invite this entire crew to join my bondage mailing list? Let's try to spice up the Manila social landscape. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bondagemanila

    Bring your own handcuffs!

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  53. i want to explore bdsm, bondage and S&M lifestyle....you can txt me at 09279343312

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