Deviance

1. La Mano

I have to let you into some of my little secrets. I have a hand fetish. Yes, I holding hands turn me on - almost similar to what foot fetishists might experience- I have a love affair with beautiful hands - smooth or rough, large or small - caressing hands just totally excite me in a surreal and sexual way. There is something utterly sexy about holding your partner's hands while you are trippin the light fantastic under the immaculate sheets only smeared with sweat and the scent of sex. It is taking the ride of your life with someone by your side.

2. BDSM

Being pretty jaded in the shagging department, I have experimented self-suffocation and to some point I asked my partner to suffocate me with a pillow quite a few times (Boys and Girls- Don't try this at home!). I have always been fascinated by BDSM (Bondage-Domination-SadoMasochism) but being in a relatively conservative society, such are swept under the rug. Take my German friend S., he is one of the top executives in an IT startup based in Makati, he recounted his experience (back in Germany) of being tied down spread-eagled, blindfolded while a girl serviced him. The girl's boyfriend at the same time was cracking the cat-o-nine-tails at them while this is going on. Most might be appalled, believe me I was one of them - but quickly this descended into a level of fascination- like I was in a semi-trance. It's really funny how people dress up the part but has never really understood the philosophy behind BDSM. Perhaps it is perversion, but mostly I reckon, that it was sexual politics and power at play - by being tied down, one actually has been freed in spirit. It is a dangerous game for sure and utmost care must be practiced at all times.

3. Menage a Trois

Like the thin lines that I have been walking all the time, this has got to be one of the most challenging. I had been invited to a menage several times, and all of the times I had to decline. I thought I might not be able to handle it, but stubborn old me tells me to keep pushing the envelope over and over again. Should I or shouldn't I? The prospects are tantalizing.